After the TOTALLY UNNECESSARY VIOLENCE that occurred yesterday in Charlottesville, VA (if you don’t already know about it, google it because I’m not going to give that nonsense any more energy), the 44th President of the United States of America Barack Obama tweeted the following. Hopefully his messages will give rise to the love that this world so desperately craves. I’m also lighting a candle for the victims…

“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin or his background or his religion…”
8:06 PM – Aug 12, 2017

“People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love…”

“…For love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Nelson Mandela 8:06 PM – Aug 12, 2017


This is one of those stories that you just must read and it will make your day. At least I hope it will make your day like it did mine. It is profound and speaks volumes. The story is of a little girl who is taken to Target to get a present that she has been promised by her parents. What makes this story so intriguing is that this little girl’s innocence has not yet been tainted. Hopefully it will not be. I found this story on

Child has purest response for cashier who questioned the color of her doll
BY: Alex Lasker,

Apr 4th 2017 3:47PM

A mother of two from South Caroline took to Facebook on March 31 to share an important interaction she had during a recent family outing to Target.

Brandi Benner says she and her husband promised their daughter, Sophia, that “after 1 whole month of going poop on the potty, she could pick out a special prize at Target.”

“She, of course, picked a new doll,” Benner wrote in her post. “The obsession is real.”

But the family trip hit a small snag at the cash register, when a confused employee questioned Sophia’s choice of doll.

“While we were checking out, the cashier asked Sophia if she was going to a birthday party. We both gave her a blank stare,” Benner wrote.

The cashier continued with her line of questioning, asking Sophia if the doll was for a friend before Benner interjected to explain that the toy was a prize for her daughter’s successful potty training.

“The woman gave me a puzzled look and turned to Sophia and asked, ‘Are you sure this is the doll you want, honey?'” wrote Benner. “Sophia finally found her voice and said, ‘Yes, please!'”

The cashier then replied, “but she doesn’t look like you. We have lots of other dolls that look more like you.”

Benner explained that just as she started to get angry, her daughter stole the show with the purest answer imaginable.

“Yes, she does,” Sophia said. “She’s a doctor like I’m a doctor. And I’m a pretty girl and she’s a pretty girl. See her pretty hair? And see her stethoscope?”

Benner says after that, the cashier dropped the argument, replying with a simple, “Oh, that’s nice.”

“This experience just confirmed my belief that we aren’t born with the idea that color matters,” Benner concluded. “Skin comes in different colors just like hair and eyes and every shade is beautiful.”

Since she shared it on Facebook, Benner’s story has received a staggering 500,000 reactions and over 200,000 shares.

Benner even shared an update on her Facebook days later, thanking the Facebook community for being so supportive.

“Our family has received so much love, support and encouragement from complete strangers and that is just proof to me that there is SO MUCH good in the world,” she wrote.

However, she did address one problem she has observed in people’s reactions to her story.

“As I explained before, the cashier was an elderly woman and I believe she was completely ignorant to what she was truly saying,” Benner explained. “I feel like in her mind she was being helpful and making conversation with my daughter.”

She says she would rather people focus on the positive aspects of the exchange, rather than harp on the negative.

“I feel like the media is so addicted to negativity that we tend to harden ourselves and assume the worst in others,” she wrote. “But you guys, all I have seen and felt from all of this is pure LOVE!”


Fitnessgrad at was kind enough to nominate studiotj for the Versatile Blogger Award. If you’ve never been to her site, you just must go there. Her site is all about fitness. Check her blog out and you just might get a good workout.
I am ever so grateful for her support and as we do here on WordPress, it’s time to pass it on. There are many sites who are “award-free”. I do respect their choice however, when I take time to make my nominations, I don’t take time to investigate who is/is not “award-free”. If you happen to be one of my nominees and you have an “award-free” site, please just accept it as me supporting you and what you do.

Anytime that I receive an award, I think about the first award that I received and it was from Xena at
Her support really helped me to understand the WordPress process. She probably has already received this award but….here you go again.
I know that there are names that I have forgotten/overlooked but please forgive me. I have come into contact with the following sites and I wish to offer them this award as a sign of support.

AND the other nominees are……… devereaux-frazier

Nominees, I challenge you to find a new blogger to pass the support on to. Thank each of you again for all of the support that you give!!!


Heap dirt. Isolated on white background

Heap dirt. Isolated on white background

One day earlier this week. I commented on one of my co-worker’s new hairdo (or don’t…if you know what I mean). She responded…… “YES!!! I am the queen on her throne—-looking down on all these peasants.” I assured her that she didn’t have far down to look. Her comment was that there are plenty of people that she looks down on. Of course, I assured her that on this planet, we are all the same. She on the other hand indicated that we definitely are not. I encouraged her to take time to stand near the restroom and watch how many people during the course of the day go in and sit on the same commode…..
This conversation reminded me of a sermon I heard being preached by Megachurch Pastor, TD Jakes. Jakes also has a daytime talk show. This sermon was several years ago and I’m not sure what exactly he was preaching about. I just remember the part where Jakes talked about dirt.
Genesis 2:7 King James Bible
And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.

Jakes reminded the congregation as the bible indicates, we are all dirt. He went on to say that we may buy designer clothes…for our dirt, get a degree… for our dirt, or even get a fancy car to drive our dirt around. BUT………….it’s still all dirt. That, my friends is such a wonderful lesson in people realizing that no one person on this planet is better than the other. Right now, I’ve got to put my dirt in the shower. Enjoy the remainder of this beautiful day!!!


Today is the day for lovers everywhere to celebrate their love to each other. Many people get creative and go all out for this Valentine’s Day. There are some who spend a lot of money to “impress” their loved one. BUT money is no substitution for time (quality time). I once read somewhere that you can get more money… but you can’t get more time. I hope you spend some quality time today with your special someone. Today I’m leaving you with another one of those special love songs that is simply timeless. This one is a classic: Peabo Bryson’s 1984 hit “If Ever You’re in My Arms Again” Enjoy your special day!!!


Okay, okay………… James Corden is at it again. This time he has assembled an all-star cast of celebrities to sing Mariah Carey’s “All I Want For Christmas”. Have you thought about what you want? This is a good time for me to tell you what I want for Christmas. First and foremost, I want everyone to realize that the reason that we are celebrating this day is because of the birth of Jesus Christ.
Isaiah 9:6 King James Bible
“For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counselor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.”
The gifts are nice but the ultimate gift is JESUS.
Secondly, I want to spend time with my family (acting silly, relaxing, reminiscing, and just doing what we do… As far as gifts, I can’t even imagine anything that I want except for perhaps to win Powerball, or Mega Millions (now that would be real nice.) For those of you who don’t play….don’t judge me!!! lol. You definitely can’t win if you don’t play…
Lastly, I want for all of my wordpress family to enjoy your Christmas however it is that you celebrate. Just be safe and have lots of fun!!!



I got the following letter from Tyler Perry today and I thought I’d share it with all of you. If you don’t know who Tyler Perry is, you must live under a rock because his movies are everywhere. EVERYWHERE. Enough of what I have to say. The purpose of this post is for you to get the message that he’s conveying. Check it out:

Hey TJ,

Sorry I haven’t written one of these in a while. Working the hours that I do and trying to be the best father that I can, I had to pull back on some things. I hope you understand. Anyway, onto the reason that I’m writing.

Everyone who knows me knows that I’m very difficult to shop for. It’s not because I’m choosey, it’s just that I’ve been very fortunate in my life and I usually have all the cool stuff already. So I tell all my friends and family that my gifts of choice are handwritten, from the heart, letters. I love getting them and no one handwrites anything anymore.

Anyway, someone gave me a gift about two years ago, and it wasn’t a letter. I thanked them for it and I put it in the trunk of my car with every intention of opening it when I got home. Well, I got home and got busy. I’m almost embarrassed to say that I forgot about this gift for quite some time. Part of the reason why was because it had fallen into a small bin area in my trunk, practically tucked in a corner, totally hidden.

One day I was looking for something else and I found that gift, this gift that I didn’t even know I had. I opened it and called the person that gave it to me to thank them for such a great gift and to apologize for not calling sooner. She said “you that damn busy?” We had a good laugh. Once I opened it, I realized it was not only something that I didn’t have, but something that I could and would use a great deal. I was super excited. I could tell you what the gift is, but that’s not as important as what I thought about when I found it. This gift that has become so valuable in my life and had been with me all that time, tucked away and hidden. Everywhere I went I had it with me and didn’t even know it, even when there were days that I really could have used it. Days where it would have made my life better, I didn’t know it was there.

With all these thoughts in my head, I couldn’t help but to think about all of us who have gifts inside of us that are tucked away and hidden. Gifts that we have never used, gifts that have been given by God, gifts that are special, gifts that can not only change your life but the world. Yet we leave them hidden, tucked away in the corners of our souls.

As you leave 2016 and enter into 2017, why not commit to searching your soul for all of your gifts, even the hidden ones, and begin to use them, no matter what people say, no matter who judges you for it and no matter what people think? Use the gifts that God has given you to help spread some hope and love and joy to this world. Boy, do we need it.

Merry CHRISTmas and a Happy New Year to you all. Thank you for an amazing 2016.



There are ten more days until Christmas 2016 and I’m celebrating by posting “JOY” by the GEORGIA MASS CHOIR featuring KIRK FANKLIN. Kirk looks much younger in this video and he actually sings on this one. We usually hear him talk through most songs but his vocals seem on point here. I wonder why he doesn’t use his voice more. Thanks to loyal reader A. Renae for sharing this video. Hopefully you’re in the mood for some “JOY”. ‘Tis the season……………..