Norman Vincent Peele once wrote “the secret of life isn’t what hapens to you, but what you do with what happens to you.”

That’s called attitude and we all have one. Yours can have either a positive or negative impact on everyone you meet.

It’s your choice. There is absolutely nothing you can do about anyone’s attitude but your own. I have a friend who died a couple of years ago. He was called Dr. Attitude. His name was Keith Harrell. His attitude was one of the most positive of anyone I have ever encountered. He could put a positive spin on anything, even if you didn’t want him to do so. In his first book, Attitude Is Everything, he

broke the word atitude down. He assigned a numeric value to each letter in attitude (the letter A being 1 and Z being 26). The breakdown is as follows:

A = 1



I= 9






As you can see from the above equation. Attitude =100% of everything you do. Make sure yours is adding up!


Yesterday someone left the following quote on my blog: “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover” – Mark Twain.

I know quite a few people who have no problem stepping out to pursue their dreams. They tend to throw caution to the wind. The sad part is that I know many more people who do nothing but sit on the sidelines and critize others. They know the answer to every question… yeah, right.
When was the last time you even thought about your dreams? Sometimes you have to forget about your surroundings, you have to forget about others, you have to forget about the cost. You have to step out—- on your own dreams.
Consider this quote from T. E. Lawrence. “All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was only vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act on their dreams with open eyes, to make them possible”.
What kind of dreamer are you? I’m encouraging you today to dust the cob webs off of your butt, and get up and work on your own dreams! Make it a great day.


I’m still having an ongoing discussion with a lady who comments as “Jane Doe” about the Smith Family (Will Smith). Her problem is the manner in which they are being raised (like she lives with them or something). There was recent discussion about Willow (Will’s youngest daughter) not being chosen for the role of Annie – the movie. Will recently gave an interview and this is what he had to say:
Via NecoleBitchie reports:
“In the past 18 months, I have spent a lot of time focusing on the emotional aspect of my life and my family. In 2010, in one year, our family had the ‘Karate Kid.’ we had ‘Whip my Hair,’ we had Hawthorne, and at the end of the year, we did the Nobel Concert when Barack Obama won his Nobel Peace Prize. Don’t be clapping yet, that wears you out. The thing that had become very clear to me is the danger of a material world and focusing so hard on coming up with money or a house or a job. You focus so hard on those things, and sometimes you can lose focus on why you are doing it in the first place. The only reason to do any of that is to have love.
Willow was supposed to be doing ‘Annie,’ we got Jay-Z to do the movie, got the studio to come in and Willow had such a difficult time on tour with ‘Whip my Hair’ and she said, ‘You know Daddy, I don’t think so’ and I said, ‘Baby, hold up! I said no,no,no, listen, you’ll be in New York with all of your friends and Beyoncé will be there. You will be singing and dancing,’ and she looked at me and said, ‘Daddy, I have a better idea, how about I just be 12.’
I’m really learning through Willow the necessity that we have to snap ourselves back and refocus on the emotional needs of the people that we love. Someone’s emotional needs can be very very different from your dreams and what you think they should be doing and where they are supposed to be.”
After sending “Jane Doe” that interview, this is how she responded:
“Her parents are trying to live through her which is why they keep pushing her and Jaden into music and film and they are pushing back. Hence the reason she dropped out of Annie. I do commend her for taking a stand and wanting some sense of normalcy.
Have you ever seen Jada rock band perform? Poor thing is still trying and so is Will. Time to let go and let God HAHAHAHAHAHA.”
I responded to her last comment by sending her the following quote which I found on http://www.motivationalwellbeing.com “NEVER GIVE UP ON WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO. THE PERSON WITH BIG DREAMS IS MORE POWERFUL THAN THE ONE WITH ALL THE FACTS. –AUTHOR UNKNOWN-


At least that’s what it looked like yesterday in one of my favorite commercials from the 2013 Super Bowl. The Taco Bell commercial featured a group of senior citizens who slipped out from their rest homes to hang out and enjoy the night life as well as Taco Bell. They were seen in night clubs as well as hanging out on the corner having a ball eating what else but tacos from Taco Bell. They almost caused a great blackout.
And speaking of a blackout, approximately one minute and a half into the second half of the Super Bowl, there was darkness in the Mercedes-Benz Superdome in New Orleans, La. There is talk that the blackout was caused by an electrical surge. But the only surge up to that point was the surge of the Ravens putting a Baltimore whooping on the San Francisco 49ers (more about that in a moment).
How could anyone forget about the HUGE surge of energy that’s called……….. BEYONCE’ that swept through the stadium for the half-time show. She truly electrified the world (yes, the whole world was watching) with eight songs that included an appearance by her former group, Destiny’s Child.
While Jennifer Hudson lit the flame before the game by singing America The Beautiful with the Sandy Hook Chorus, Alicia Keys continued to heap coals on the flames when she sang The National Anthem. But it was Beyonce’ who set the entire place……… on fire!
Back to the Ravens. Truthfully, I have hated on the Ravens all season because of a friend who constantly bragged on them. I finally jumped on the Ravens bandwagon just in time for the Superbowl.
After the power was restored however, it was the 49ers time to shine. They quickly put 17 points on the scoreboard, albeit still trailing the Ravens. But all in all, their surge was a little too late. It was Ray Lewis who walked into retirement with his 2nd Super Bowl ring.
This Super Bowl will go down in history as one of the classics. Perhaps I’ll remember it when I get old. Or I just may be too busy hanging out with some other old people… at Taco Bell.


Ok, today’s the big day. It’s Super Bowl Sunday. Today’s matchup is the Baltimore Ravens versus the San Francisco 49ers. I truthfully have no allegiance to either team because my team, the Atlanta Falcons, got beat by the 49ers in the last minutes of the game a couple of weeks ago.
The big winner of the day will be ……………………… BEYONCE’!!!

No seriously, my heart is telling me that the Ravens will win it and somewhere deep inside I want that to be the case because of Ray Lewis. He’s the sentimental favorite for a lot of people and of course this is his last season. My head is telling me that San Francisco will walk away with the crown.

On this occasion I’m going to follow my heart and I’m pulling for the Ravens. GO RAVENS!!!


As a tribute to BLACK HISTORY MONTH I wanted to share an article that I read some time ago and it still gives me chills to see some of the things that we’ve had to endure. Perhaps this is your first time hearing of BLACK WALLSTREET. Please pass it on. Oh , and HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH. Take out some time and learn some of your own history.

The date was June 1, 1921, when “Black Wallstreet,” the name fittingly given to one of the most affluent all-black communities in America, was bombed from the air and burned to the ground by mobs of envious whites. In a period spanning fewer than 12 hours, a once thriving 36-black business district in northern Tulsa lay smoldering-A model community destroyed, and a major Africa-American economic movement resoundingly defused.

The night’s carnage left some 3,000 African Americans dead, and over 600 successful businesses lost. Among these were 21 churches, 21 restaurants, 30 grocery stores and two movie theaters, plus a hospital, a bank, a post office, libraries, schools, law offices, a half-dozen private airplanes and even a bus system. As could be expected, the impetus behind it all was the infamous Ku Klux Klan, working in consort with ranking city officials, and many other sympathizers. In their self-published book, Black Wallstreet: A lost Dream, and its companion video documentary, Black Wallstreet: A Black Holocaust in America!, the authors have chronicled for the very first time in the words of area historians and elderly survivors what really happened there on that fateful summer day in 1921 and why it happened. Wallace similarly explained to Black Elegance why this bloody event from the turn of the century seems to have had a recurring effect that is being felt in predominately Black neighborhoods even to this day. The best description of Black Wallstreet, or Little Africa as it was also known, would be to liken it to a mini-Beverly Hills. It was the golden door of the Black community during the early 1900s, and it proved that African Americans had successful infrastructure. That’s what Black Wallstreet was about.

The dollar circulated 36 to 1000 times, sometimes taking a year for currency to leave the community. Now in 1995, a dollar leaves the Black community in 15 minutes. As far as resources, there were Ph.D’s residing in Little Africa, Black attorneys and doctors. One doctor was Dr. Berry who also owned the bus system. His average income was $500 a day, a hefty pocket of change in 1910. During that era, physicians owned medical schools. There were also pawn shops everywhere, brothels, jewelry stores, 21 churches, 21 restaurants and two movie theaters. It was a time when the entire state of Oklahoma had only two airports, yet six blacks owned their own planes. It was a very fascinating community. The area encompassed over 600 businesses and 36 square blocks with a population of 15,000 African Americans. And when the lower-economic Europeans looked over and saw what the Black community created, many of them were jealous. When the average student went to school on Black Wallstreet, he wore a suit and tie because of the morals and respect they were taught at a young age.

The mainstay of the community was to educate every child. Nepotism was the one word they believed in. And that’s what we need to get back to in 1995. The main thoroughfare was Greenwood Avenue, and it was intersected by Archer and Pine Streets. From the first letters in each of those names, you get G.A.P., and that’s where the renowned R&B music group The GAP Band got its name. They’re from Tulsa. Black Wallstreet was a prime example of the typical Black community in America that did business, but it was in an unusual location. You see, at the time, Oklahoma was set aside to be a Black and Indian state. There were over 28 Black townships there. One third of the people who traveled in the terrifying “Trail of Tears” along side the Indians between 1830 to 1842 were Black people. The citizens of this proposed Indian and Black state chose a Black governor, a treasurer from Kansas named McDade. But the Ku Klux Klan said that if he assumed office that they would kill him within 48 hours. A lot of Blacks owned farmland, and many of them had gone into the oil business. The community was so tight and wealthy because they traded dollars hand-to-hand, and because they were dependent upon one another as a result of the Jim Crow laws.

It was not unusual that if a resident’s home accidentally burned down, it could be rebuilt within a few weeks by neighbors. This was the type of scenario that was going on day-to-day on Black Wallstreet. When Blacks intermarried into the Indian culture, some of them received their promised ’40 acres and a Mule,’ and with that came whatever oil was later found on the properties.

Just to show you how wealthy a lot of Black people were, there was a banker in a neighboring town who had a wife named California Taylor. Her father owned the largest cotton gin west of the Mississippi [River]. When California shopped, she would take a cruise to Paris every three months to have her clothes made. There was also a man named Mason in nearby Wagner County who had the largest potato farm west of the Mississippi. When he harvested, he would fill 100 boxcars a day. Another brother not far away had the same thing with a spinach farm. The typical family then was five children or more, though the typical farm family would have 10 kids or more who made up the nucleus of the labor.

On Black Wallstreet, a lot of global business was conducted. The community flourished from the early 1900s until June 1, 1921. That’s when the largest massacre of non-military Americans in the history of this country took place, and it was lead by the Ku Klux Klan. Imagine walking out of your front door and seeing 1,500 homes being burned. It must have been amazing.

Survivors we interviewed think that the whole thing was planned because during the time that all of this was going on, white families with their children stood around on the borders of the community and watched the massacre, the looting and everything—much in the same manner they would watch a lynching.

In my lectures I ask people if they understand where the word “picnic” comes from. It was typical to have a picnic on a Friday evening in Oklahoma. The word was short for “pick a nigger” to lynch. They would lynch a Black male and cut off body parts as souvenirs. This went on every weekend in this country. That’s where the term really came from. The riots weren’t caused by anything Black or white. It was caused by jealousy. A lot of white folks had come back from World War I and they were poor. When they looked over into the Black communities and realized that Black men who fought in the war had come home heroes that helped trigger the destruction. It cost the Black community everything, and not a single dime of restitution—no insurance claims-has been awarded to the victims to this day.

Nonetheless, they rebuilt. We estimate that 1,500 to 3,000 people were killed, and we know that a lot of them were buried in mass graves all around the city. Some were thrown in the river. As a matter of fact, at 21st Street and Yale Avenue, where there now stands a Sears parking lot, that corner used to be a coal mine. They threw a lot of the bodies into the shafts. Black Americans don’t know about this story because we don’t apply the word holocaust to our struggle. Jewish people use the word holocaust all the time. White people use the word holocaust. It’s politically correct to use it. But when we Black folks use the word, people think we’re being cry babies or that we’re trying to bring up old issues. No one comes to our support. In 1910, our forefathers and mothers owned 13 million acres of land at the height of racism in this country, so the Black Wallstreet book and videotape prove to the naysayers and revisionists that we had our act together. Our mandate now is to begin to teach our children about our own, ongoing Black holocaust. They have to know when they look at our communities today that we don’t come from this.


Beyoncé’s weapon of choice wasn’t a gun, knife, or poison. Instead, clad in a long-sleeve white dress, with her hair swept to the side, she stunned the crowd as she killed the National Anthem with a live
a capella rendition at a press conference on Thursday (January 31, 2013) in New Orleans, La. Afterwards she immediately asked “are there any questions?”
When asked to explain what happened at the Inauguration, the 31-year-old entertainer said “I am a perfectionist and one thing about me is I’ve practiced till my feet bleed. I did not have time to rehearse with the orchestra. It was a live television show and a very important emotional show for me. Due to the weather, due to the delay, due to the lack of a proper sound check, I did not feel comfortable taking a risk.”
She said she was proud of her performance despite the controversy and indicated very clearly that “I will absolutely be singing live. I am well-rehearsed and I will be singing live… this is what I was born to do”.


I thought more about the post I made yesterday regarding the husband who has a problem with his wife’s need to constantly have her cell phone within arms reach. I began to think about the following scripture:
PSALMS 138:8 —The LORD will perfect that which concerneth me: thy mercy, O LORD, endureth for ever: forsake not the works thy own hands.
That scripture made me take another at look at what I had previously commented. Even though I still stand by my original comments, I will say that when you’re in a relationship, compromise is key. Since the wife knows that this is an issue that bothers her husband, perhaps she should look into some form of compromise on this issue (perfecting those things that concerns her husband). Yesterday, as we talked about this issue, a young lady commented “happy wife/happy life”. I then gave her my made-up Chinese proverb: Man who unhappy at home find happiness around corner. Enough said!