FIND YOUR HAPPY PLACE…

Today I want to talk about relationships. I’m no expert but trust me, I know what I need to know.
I recently had a conversation with a friend who is very concerned about his wife’s phone usage. According to him, she can’t put the phone down. At home, she always has her cell phone within arms reach or somewhere on her person. She’s constantly texting as well. They’ve had numerous exchanges about this situation. I also remember that before they got married (a little over a year ago) that was one of the issues that they had. He still married her. This situation is still a cause for contention in their marriage.
I can’t understand why. She is a grown woman who revealed herself before the marriage. He went into the marriage full aware that this is who she was and what she did. Perhaps he did what many people do before marriage. He thought that he would marry her… and change her. Now he’s ready to fight (not physically).
My advise to him is as follows: Are you sure this is a battle that you want to have. I think that each person should pick their battles. And as the saying goes: you may win the battle, but not the war. I recently read something on a radio personality’s website that said: “Picking your battles is a skill that will save you so much time, energy, sleepless nights, and frustration. Plus, it’s better to be known for how you LOVE as opposed to your ability to ‘check’.”
‘Check yourself’ and know that we are all different. She can’t be you and you can’t be her. Learn to embrace your differences and FIND YOUR OWN HAPPY PLACE…….

WHY LIE?

Yesterday, while listening to my favorite gospel radio station, I was very intrigued about a topic that I heard the DJ discuss. The DJ was having a discussion about grieving. The DJ’s mother had passed away approximately two weeks ago and he was discussing his conversation with his wife about grieving. Apparently the DJ’s wife had told their young son about the passing of his grandmother and the young son asked the mother if his father had cried. The mom was unsure as to how to answer the question and she asked her husband what to tell the son. The DJ said that he is not one who outwardly cries but told his wife to tell the son that he had cried like a baby. He indicated that he did that so that the son would not grow up thinking that it was not okay for a man to cry.
I made a call to the DJ and asked why does he think it was okay for him to lie about that to his son. He said that he was trying to make a point. My question is: IS IT OKAY TO LIE TO MAKE A POINT?
In my opinion, instead of just making a point to his son, the DJ (while being what he calls transparent) has sent out a message to his massive audience, that it is okay to lie, just to make a point.
I think that the situation could have been handled in a better way to get the desired results.
Everyone emotes differently. That could have easily explained to this child. Just because the father is not one to openly cry, that doesn’t mean that the son will take on that same trait.

I’m reminded of people who get up in church to testify and instead, they TESTI-LIE. Perhaps, they feel that they are helping GOD to get the point across. I don’t think that GOD needs anyone’s help in getting a point across. Tell me your views on this topic. I am very interested in what you have to say.

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GET YOUR LIFE!

I was reading another blog yesterday and I ran across the following comment that took me to another level. I’ll give you a chance to read it before I comment:

“1. My main issue is Scientololgy. The religion teaches them to live free and without rules and boundaries which is already a set up for distruction especially for kids that are easily manipulated
Secondly, they’re not in school. Last time I mentioned this some folks got pissed but whatever. I understand they are rich and can hire someone to read the bathroom sign and wipe their azz for them but they need an education. Willow admitted to not being able to count because she is too busy
Jadan lives with Will and Willow lives with Jada on separate coast
I will spare you Will and Jada’s sex-capades with other folks lol”

First of all, I would have to ask, how does this commenter know so much about the lives of the Smith Family? This family seems to be doing great and they also seem to be quite balanced. If the kids can’t read or have an education, how are they able to learn the lines of the script of THE MOVIES they are playing in. AND they must be able to count a bit because making music involves keeping time with the beat.
I’m ashamed that we have evolved into a society where rumour and innuendo are the catch of the day and resides at the top of the menu. Where do any of us get off microscoping other’s lives when ours too are sooooooooooooooooo out of balance. And to add insult to injury, not only has this commenter gone into the bedroom of these individuals, but has insulted the children as well. What if people decided to write about the parenting skills (or lack thereof) of this commenter? Or better yet, what may or may not be going on in their bedroom. Additionally, because we are NOT the true and righteous judge, how can we have so much to say about someone else’s religion. It’s all a choice. To the person that made these insipid comments: GET YOUR LIFE!

Did She Fake It?

It seems that one of the hottest trending topics as of late has been that of Beyonce’ potentially lip-synching at the Inauguration of President Barak Obama on January 21, 2013.
A spokesperson for the U.S. Marine Corps band told ABC News she did in fact lip synch. According to the spokesperson, Beyonce was not singing. It was Beyonce’s voice, but a pre-recorded version heard by about a million people in Washington and millions more on television.
True enough, Beyonce’ is a talented individual who has travelled and impacted the world with her music. But… there are may more pressing issues in this world. Consider literacy.
According to UNICEF, “Nearly a billion people will enter the 21st century unable to read a book or sign their names and two thirds of them are women.”
What an alarming statistic and even sadder is the is the notion that you don’t hear of many if any people talking about that.

President Obama Makes History….. Again

On the day that Americans celebrate Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, we also celebrated the 2nd Inauguration of our 1st African-American President, Barak Hussein Obama.
2013 was the first year that the inauguration fell on the same day of the MLK Jr. celebration. And a celebration it was.
Among the thousands to flock to the nation’s capitol to help the again elected Obama kick off his second term in the White House were prominent names like Beyoncé (who sang the National Anthem), James Taylor, Stevie Wonder, Katy Perry, Kelly Clarkson, Jennifer Hudson, and Alicia Keys.
The 800,000-1 million attendees as well as the millions who tuned in on tv to watch were treated to a poignant speech which was 2,137 words long and took 15 minutes to deliver.
Supreme Court Chief Justice John Roberts administered the oath of office to President Barack Obama during the Inaugural swearing-in ceremony at the U.S. Capitol in Washington, D.C., Jan. 21, 2013.
“America’s possibilities are limitless,” said Obama, “for we possess all the qualities that this world without boundaries demands: youth and drive; diversity and openness; an endless capacity for risk and a gift for reinvention. My fellow Americans, we are made for this moment, and we will seize it — so long as we seize it together.”
What a powerful way to begin this new year. May his declaration of togetherness be the bridge to the gap that has for far too long separated us.